Soon they’ll know Santa’s not real.

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My eldest child’s teacher sends weekly emails to the class to keep us up-to-date on what is going on in the classroom. The most recent email included a section headed “What to do if your child hears that others don’t believe in Santa” as the class is learning the story of St. Nicolas (a very real man) and there has been talk of Santa.

What to do if your child hears that others don’t believe  in Santa?
     If your child has older siblings he or she might hear them say that they don’t believe in Santa anymore. Then your child comes to you and asks you if Santa is real. What can you do?
     First of all,  have a talk with your older child. Remind them of when they were young and how Santa  was real for them. Ask them to be the “keeper of the magic” and not discount the imagination of the younger child….
Secondly, this is a teaching moment for tolerance. When your young one tells you that his or her friend said that there is no Santa you can share how  people believe in different things and celebrate holidays in different ways. Share that  “in our family we…. believe in Santa but in other families they may not and that is okay…. This phrase…”in our family we…” will become your mantra in the years to come. So many things come up where families do things in different ways. We can’t change others. We must show tolerance of other people’s  believes and journeys but still hold on  to what we want for our own  family.

This morning in the car I brought up Santa – how some children believe in him, and how in our family we know Santa is a story. The children were in full agreement – we’ve never really pushed the Santa myth, one of the grandmothers tried briefly, but it never really stuck. Silly grandma, Santa is a story.

In the car this afternoon the little one piped up:

Kid2: Everyone in my class believes in Santa, except me. I know Santa’s not real.

Me: Did you tell your friends Santa is not real?

Kid2: No. They all believe in Santa.

Kid2 then got quiet, and didn’t say much more.

I decided to use some of the teacher’s suggested language. Me: It is okay for them to believe in Santa, people believe a lot of different things, and … at this point Kid2 interrupted me, and in a super-sweet kindergarten voice, informed me:

Kid2: Soon they’ll know Santa’s not real.

I’m not sure what to say to that. I think we may have to have a conversation with the teacher.

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Winter Break – Posting will resume in 2016

Kindism.org is enjoying a winter break.

Irregular updates, and the continuation of posts discussing Rudolf Steiner’s Founding a Science of the Spirit will resume sometime in the new year. Thank you for your understanding. 


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483627_10152317971035487_1625278193_nI’ve shared my struggles with Christmas in the past, and this year is no different. Yes, we are going to have a tree (without an angel on top), we will call the holiday Christmas (because it is easier), and as I pointed out before

Christmas is a wonderful mid-winter festival with a focus on family and togetherness. Bringing fresh greenery inside reminds us that the winter will end (eventually), and the lights on the tree twinkle in the growing dark of late afternoon. Hot chocolate, peppermint, and ginger cookies are tasty. What isn’t to like about a holiday that promotes such things?

This year, while our celebrations will be decidedly influenced by Western European traditions and (to some extent) American consumerist excess, I am also hoping to introduce some new ideas and traditions into the mix so that we can finally have a seasonal holiday tradition that reflects who we are, and where we are on our journeys. I hope to depart from the largely uneaten holiday meal, massive pile of gifts, and general angst that permeates the house and replace it with something lighter and more enjoyable for everyone.

With this (perhaps overly ambitious goal) in mind I got a copy of The Return of the Light: Twelve Tales from Around the World for the Winter Solstice by Carolyn McVickar Edwards so that we could have seasonal stories on hand other than a battered copy of The Cajun Night Before Christmas, and an equally well loved DVD of The Muppet Christmas Carol.

In the forward of The Return of the Light, Edwards talks about the global idea of light returning after the darkest days of winter. She focuses on the Solstice and goes on to discuss the Roman holidays of Brumalia, Saturnalia and Opalia, and how Christian (Catholic) tradition has co-opted various pagan rituals through out the holiday season. Although Sol invictus was given an over-view in the forward, I was rather disappointed that the story was not told in full later in the book. Mithra is also given a passing mention.

The stories were still a little advanced for my children, but I’m sure in the coming years they will take more interest. We incorporated some of the Rites and Games — trimming the dead wood (raking leaves counts), decking the halls (collaborating as a family and building a little seasonal scene on our Waldorf-inspired nature table), baking and eating treats (we each picked a favorite cookie recipe). I pulled out our collection of candles, picked up some of Trader Joe’s Sipping Chocolate, and we played board games.

I am trying to make it feel gemütlich, centered around family and loved ones, with a healthy dose of fresh air to exhaust the little ones for bedtime.

We have been bundling up in layers (waldorf children are like onions in this regard), and going for walks in the woods. Crunching through leaves, squishing through mud and splashing in the few puddles we come across. Some days we get extra adventurous and ride our bikes along the narrow trails, dodging blackberry bushes, and carefully traversing the narrow bridges.

With the early dark of evening settling in, early warm meals have graced our table: homemade pizza, potato leek soup, hearty bread, spaghetti bologense, chili. The house has smelled of baking: ginger bread, peppermint bark cookies, sugar cookies to decorate.

I’m not going to worry about the story of Baby Jesus, my oldest knows Santa is “a story” and sometimes “real people dress up like Santa — like at [the school’s Fall Festival] where people dress silly.” Baby Jesus is a story too. So is Sol Invictus, so is Mithra. In the end, Light will triumph over Darkness, and the sun will rise again. We will have bacon, cinnamon rolls, coffee (hot chocolate for the children), and open the presents under the tree. Eventually we’ll go for a post-present walk, and come back and start on a mostly-made-in-advance meal that just needs to be heated up to be enjoyed.

Santa and Baby Jesus have nothing to do with it. Credit where credit is due, Mommy is simply “awesome” (that’s Kid1’s new favorite adjective — I’m ok with being awesome).

I wish you all love, joy, peace, and light!

Commentary on Ms. Eddy’s “Christ and Christmas”

While I had heard about Ms. Eddy’s Christ and Christmas poem growing up, I didn’t read it until just recently, when I came across MJSmith’s analyses of it on The Ark of Truth Mother’s Hood. I am more acquainted with Ms. Eddy’s hymn/poem Christmas Morn as it regularly made an appearance at Christmas Hymn Sings, along with the generically Christian  Joy to the World.

MJSmith makes some interesting observations and draws some interesting conclusions from the poem and illustrations, so I decided to find a copy and see for myself. Christ and Christmas is not in our personal collection, but Google Books and Archive.org have copies available online.

I was never much for poetry analysis (my high school English teachers will agree), and I’m sure if I attempted to analyzing Christ and Christmas it would devolve into a study in esoteric minutia and I would likely come to all the wrong conclusions.

I will leave the musings and analysis to MJSmith and the Discover of New Christian Science, Rolf Witzsche. Below is the full text of the poem, a YouTube video of Wizsche’s “New Christian Science: Christ & Christmas,” and links to MJSmith’s analyses.
A quick note: There is much criticism of Christian Scientists by Christian Scientists about the “right” and “wrong” ways to practice, as well as selective/intentional ignorance about certain aspects of the religion. I feel that these things which may be preceived as controversial should be made more broadly available so that people can judge for themselves — and I’m sure it will make for interesting conversation around the dinner table.

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keeping the “fun” in “dysFUNctional” this holiday season

The holiday season can be trying, so in the spirit of keeping the “fun” back in “dysfunctional” I’m sharing a few things which are making my days a little brighter and more merry (other than the pint of gelato in the freezer and bottles of cheer chilling in the garage). Also, this post kicks off a lull in blogging and activity that will likely last through the end of the year (or at the very least until after the winter solstice).

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Blog posts & articles that made me smile:

1486759_368631876614564_1135235444_nDoing good for others this holiday season:

Krampus (see also http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus)

A few festive YouTube videos!

Festive memes!

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